Entering the darkness at Fort Douaumont

May 2 (2 of 3): It was still raining as we departed the van. The parking lot of Fort Douaumont was a white muddy field. Barbed wire encircled the fort’s perimeter, and green grass covered the surrounding craters. There was a winding path leading up to the top of Fort Douaumont, but we headed down into the entrance door and visitor’s center. My first impression after crossing the fort’s threshold was the stench. It smelled like a rotten Pont l’Eveque cheese. (Pont l’Eveque is a pungent cheese when it’s fresh.)

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Joining the ‘Champ de Bataille’ 

May 2: (1 of 3): I headed to the Hostellerie Coq Hardi. Since Coq is rooster in French, it wasn’t surprising to find roosters the theme in the lobby.

The floorboards creaked as I entered my room. The curtains were drawn, so I switched on the overhead light. A fabric of harvest gold roses, not wallpaper, covered the walls. The unattractive fabric walls and matching harvest gold drapes made the room extremely dark. I opened the curtains to a view of the post office across the street. 

There was no time to be concerned with the décor of my room since the clock was approaching 2 o’clock. I tossed my luggage into the room and headed outside. I found the Tourism Office. It was a dismal place. I saw people boarding a mini-van across the street. I looked at the sign: Champ de Bataille leaving at 2 o’clock.

“Is there room for one more person on the tour?” 

The hostess replied, “Yes, but it’s a French/German tour. The guide won’t speak any English.” 

“That’s okay, I’d like to take the tour.” 

Another hostess darted across the street to alert the tour guide of an additional person joining the group. After paying my fare, I ran across the street. 

The tour guide asked in French, “Do you speak French?”
I replied, “No.”
She asked, “Do you speak German?”
I replied, “No.” (I didn’t mention I had three years of German in college.)
“I speak very little English,” she said.
“That’s fine. I want to see the sites.”
I boarded the mini-van and sat down in the only available seat – a folding jump seat in the aisle. The man sitting next to me turned to me and said, “I speak English! I will translate for you!” 

So, the tour guide would speak in French, then in German, and the kind Belgian man would translate into English. As the mini-van headed out of the Verdun city limits, the driver made a quick stop in front of a cemetery. He drove across the lane of oncoming traffic, then over the curb, and stopped the van on the sidewalk. (I began to wonder what kind of ride this was going to be.) The windows were fogging up on the inside, so with my closed umbrella I wiped away the condensation to get a better view of what was outside. 

As we drove toward Fort Vaux, there was a transformation in the landscape. The trees became stunted and the ground pocked with craters. There was a sign of a lighted match inside a red circle with a cross mark that served as a warning. No fire. There were still live bombs in the woods. So many thousands of shells dropped into the ground that the buried ammunition of decades past could still be sparked by a match. 

No Man’s Land – Fort Vaux

Fort Vaux was built into a rock formation. It was starting to rain as we headed into the visitor’s entrance. The tour guide picked up an English handout from the visitor’s desk and gave it to me. The fort smelled musty from the dampness, and it was chilly. I met the Belgian man’s wife. She spoke English too. We headed into a dark exhibit area that held a few personal effects from the soldiers, and then walked into the main corridor of the fort that was illuminated by bare light bulbs spaced far apart. The rooms off the main corridor dropped into blackness. Some rooms had numbers corresponding with numbers on my handout sheet. We walked down the corridor to the right and viewed the hospital rooms, barracks filled with bunks, stairs leading down into a black abyss, and an escape tunnel. Puddles of water stood in the floor. The Belgian woman and I discussed what it must have been like for the soldiers trying to survive here in the winter. I expected to see a rat sneaking down the dark, dank corridor. 

There were many openings off the main corridor. A short distance from one opening was a large mound of dirt that was topped by a Latin cross, which was illuminated by a light bulb. It was a mass grave that ran parallel to the corridor we were walking through. As we continued to walk to the other end of the fort, we passed a chapel. I read my handout. During the war, the dead bodies were placed in this area and covered with lime. 

Later, the area was bricked up. The bodies remain behind the wall. The area in front of the wall was transformed into a chapel. A few candles were burning. I lit a candle for the unknown French soldiers and said a prayer of remembrance for them. 

The tour congregated in the gun room where the rusty gun remained. The large barrel stuck out through a hole in the fort’s wall. I looked out another opening and saw a choppy, turbulent sea of earth under thick hovering gray fog. Each hillock was created by bombs. I’ve always heard of “no man’s land,” and here it was. Time stood still. It was untouchable, and desolate. The land was lifeless, and nothing moved but the fog. The tour moved on and took us all away from the lookout across the war zone. 

We returned to the visitor’s center at Fort Vaux. I bought postcards of WWI soldiers at the Ossuary on Remembrance Day. Before returning to the bus, I walked to the edge of the parking lot and took a picture of the landscape. I was amazed that no one else seemed to pay attention to the land surrounding us. The land had been free from war since 1919 yet the effects of the war continued to haunt it. The parking lot was the only leveled ground in sight. Deep bomb craters were everywhere, and they were staggering. The trees were small saplings; the trunks were no larger than a woman’s wrist. I thought of the trees back home that were over fifty years old: The oaks, elms and maples towered above the streets and their branches reached out like a grandmother’s open arms. 

Pigeon Rings

The next stop on the tour was the Memorial of Verdun that displayed relics from both the French and German sides. There were hats, uniforms, ammunition, guns, documents, and pictures. We were herded into the auditorium to watch a film, In the Soldiers Footsteps. I received a headset that translated the audio into English. A blur of faces and troops is what I can remember most, not the words. Although I do remember a statement,

“These soldiers were men with a different character; strong men who walked into a battle knowing they would die.” They knew they would die. This was the truth of their war. 

I was intrigued by the display in the center of the memorial of razed earth as it might have been in 1916 – cratered and scattered with the remains of war and void of the presence of life. I tried to visualize the entire region of Verdun as depicted here. I discussed this scene with the Belgian couple, and then the Belgian man told me the story of his grandfather who was killed by the SS (Schutzstaffel) during WWII. 

His mother was 14 the day she opened the door to discover the SS or “Nacht-und nebelgefangenen” (Soldiers of the night and fog) on their porch. Along with being a doctor and a mayor, his grandfather made pigeon rings that were attached to a carrier pigeon’s leg. Carrier pigeons were an important method of communication in WWII. The Nazis wanted to kill all the French pigeons to help stop French communication. 

The SS had issued the command for the French to bring either the pigeon or the ring to them. (When they had the ring from the pigeon’s leg, they knew the pigeon was dead.) A member of the resistance had asked the doctor to help him make an extra ring for his carrier pigeon. Then he could give the Nazis the fake ring and would still have his pigeon to send messages. The doctor said he would do this but asked him not to tell anyone. The Belgian man added, “I’m not sure how many rings my grandfather made for the resistance, but this is why the SS took him away.” 

When the SS took the doctor to prison, his wife was pregnant with their fifth child. The doctor was killed in 1944 and never saw his son. Fifty years later, in 1994, the Germans wanted to reconcile and the Belgian man and his family went to the prison. His grandmother and uncle (the son who never saw his father) did not. She never remarried, and her life changed dramatically from being the wife of a doctor and mayor to being a widow with five children. The Germans returned letters that his grandfather wrote in prison but were never mailed by the SS. In the letters, the doctor spoke about the child his wife was carrying. 

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They lived. They loved. They have a story to tell

Remember
You are the hands of the present generation.
You hold the hands of a future generation.
You hold the hands of past generations, some now departed, and they in turn held the hands of older generations.
Hearts that once beat with life still beat in remembrance.
 

It is All Souls’ Day, a day not recognized through the spring and early summer of my life.  Since writing the words above as the Foreword of Resurgam – Standing on the Ground of Remembrance in 2008, there have been the departures of older generations and the arrivals of younger generations.

Now it’s a day with meaning, a day to pause, to remember them and reflect on all those hands and hearts that once walked on this earth and cultivated the ground in so many loving ways. All the unseen actions that went unrecognized yet made a difference in the future, which has become the present. 

To honor them and remember them, I’m sharing “Stones Unknown,” about finding peace in the most unexpected place. The inspiration (not surprisingly) was a stone.  This is a chapter from the revised story—The Ground of Remembrance—the fruit received through cycles of seasons from the hearts and hands of older generations. As the early story of Resurgam goes, “They lived. They loved. They have a story to tell.” I have been listening and learning. This small, yet new chapter took 25 years of learning how to listen and trust my heart. It is the beginning.  My heart overflows with gratitude for a gift from past generations that continues to grow.

Read: Stones Unknown

Background: A photograph of a solitary soldier standing on a hill of ruins captured my attention in 2013. (Hill of Loss) Something was familiar. The caption revealed the location: “A solitary American soldier looks at a ruined church on the crest of Montfaucon, France, after the town was captured.” I had been to there! My guide took me to Montfaucon on my way to Cote 304. That discovery and the journey inspired a new chapter of fiction, Stones Unknown in 2022.

From the book “RESURGAM – Standing on the Ground of Remembrance” – the discovery of Montfaucon, France (and the Center for Peace):

(c) 2022 Jean Niedert, an excerpt from “The Ground of Remembrance”

Pax (peace) in Montfaucon

It’s a notable discovery when a single nugget of information ‘suddenly’ transforms a place. This summer I found a new connection to an old story. Turns out there was a Benedictine monastery in Montfaucon, France. It was destroyed in World War I although some church ruins remain.

There would have been a main entrance to the grounds of the former Benedictine monastery founded in the 6th century. Over the archway would have been the message: Pax intrantibus—Peace to those who enter here. (Or perhaps just Pax.)

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Discovering the Oratory of the Heart

Joan Chittister writes: “… you have to make an oratory for yourself somehow. Take a long walk alone, perhaps, where the whipping wind or the bursting of trees can bring you back to the essentials, the basics of life. The point is that your “oratory” is whatever invites you, lifts your soul beyond the daily and the mundane. The oratories of the heart are any place that recalls you to your spiritual self.”

I have continued to return to Joan Chittister’s words in the chapter “The Oratory – On Holy Space” from her book The Monastic Heart.

I landed in the oratory during February and continued to return to the pages due to its resonance. Why do these words speak to me? Initially, I thought it was the discovery of the word, “oratory” for chapel. I remembered the Chapel of the Palms. This small, simple oratory sits by the Edisto River, which flows—within eyesight—into the Atlantic Ocean.   To be there—even on the ground of remembrance—is to notice hidden transitions.

And still, the oratory resonated, so I wanted to share this chapter with others. It was the timing of my decision to share that finally illuminated a deeper understanding and meaning. 

March 13, 2022, the two-year mark

It is March 13, 2022, the two-year mark since all organized activities were cancelled for two weeks in March 2020 due to the unknowns of COVID virus. Those two weeks transformed into a stay at home mandate in April 2020. Routines were swept away and life upended.

As I reflected on those early months, I realized the oratory speaks to my heart and spirit because I created an oratory but wasn’t aware of the creation until I read about the oratory. 

Now I understand that COVID restrictions didn’t block access to this space. Visiting hours remained open. There wasn’t any mask mandate.  The only requirement was to find time to visit—to pause, to settle, to rest, to find peace—and finally, to be at peace.  

I entered a variety of oratories during these two years.  There was a back yard deck, the detailed memory of the Chapel of the Palms by the water, the neighbor’s backyard garden with the koi pond, a friend’s covered dock with unexpected sightings of dolphins, walks on the beach, a porch swing on a river walk, a bench at a church’s columbarium, a yoga mat, but most importantly, the space within the heart. In these past two years, I have visited the oratory in my heart more than I have ever visited it before. Maybe that’s the truth I needed to discover this week as the world faces another challenge.  And this I know with great certainty in this uncertain world: There is an expansive network of hidden oratories. The community of prayer has grown stronger during these two years.  Where is your oratory? How many have you created and visited during these past two years? 

Excerpts from “The Oratory – On Holy Space” from Joan Chittister’s book The Monastic Heart:

… Now, in these times, we are at the very same kind of moment: Churches are closing as congregations move or disappear. Massive cathedrals stand alone in the cities, still cavernous, too often empty. Now, perhaps more than ever, we need to “let the oratory be what it is called.” We must let it call us beyond our present overwhelmed selves. What will happen to our hearts if there is no place for us to find the beauty of emptiness in an overstuffed world? We live in an overnoisy, overcrowded, overstimulating round of events, with hardly a break to think through the important questions of life: What is life about? What is the purpose of our lives? How can we possibly make things better, more whole, for our families, for our world, for ourselves?

… The oratory tells you that you yourself must reach out, stop, sink down inside yourself, and let the weariness, the pain, the fear of abandonment evaporate and go to dust in the presence of the soothing warmth of faith and the promises of security, beauty, joy, and happiness that come with the presence of God in your life. 

Helping the Human Spirit in Its Search for Peace

Today is Father’s Day. Ten years ago while in a bookstore in Highlands, North Carolina, an orange leaf on a book cover caught my attention. I read the title “Parting – A Handbook for Spiritual Care Near the End of Life.” 

My initial thought, “It’s too late for that book.” My dad had passed away in April and the grief was raw in June.  I had believed he would live for many more decades due to his love of life and learning. But everyone was blindsided when he was diagnosed in March.  

Instead of passing by the book, I picked it up and read the Foreword, which included:

… Spiritual care for the purpose of this handbook is soul care, helping the human spirit in its search for peace. It is the attempt to help those near the end of life feel whole, fulfilled, and in harmony with their world and higher power. Religious experience may or may not be spiritual, and spiritual experience may or may not be religious. Regardless of the dying person’s religion or persuasion or faith tradition, spiritual care near the end of life supplies a deep human need.

My personal grief provided an heightened awareness of the collective grief. My dad had ensured everything was in order, but that orderliness didn’t lessen the grief, sorrow or the immense loss I felt and experienced.

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Finding the Neutral Zone of Transition

“It isn’t the changes that do you in, its the transitions. They aren’t the same thing. Change is situational: the move to a new site, the new boss, the revisions to plans. Transition is psychological; it is a three-phase process that people go through as they internalize and come to terms with the details of the new situation that the change brings”. –William Bridges from the book “Managing Transitions”.

What Happens When Your World Changes?

The lifting of the Stay at Home order only intensified change. The new reality was evident in every outside interaction. Continue reading “Finding the Neutral Zone of Transition”

Paying Attention to the Known and Unknown of Life

 

My creative meander in March that started with Receiving the Precious Gift of Time led me back to familiar ground in June. During the uncertainty and upheavals between March and June, I revisited chapters from “A Year to Live” by Stephen Levine. Noticing, Gratitude and A Commitment to Life helped me befriend the unknown. His book provided hope and structure during the months of change out of my control. Here’s the first paragraph from the Introduction:

This is a book of renewal. It is not simply about dying but about the restoration of the heart, which occurs when we confront our life and death with mercy and awareness. It is an opportunity to resolve our denial of death as well as our denial of life in a year-long experiment in healing, joy, and revitalization.

When my calendar was cleared in March, I felt the loss of routine and social interaction. I was naively hopeful, expecting that we would return to something new in April. There was no return in April but there was something new: Stay At Home orders.

With nowhere to go, few distractions, I kept writing about what I encountered during the global pandemic. Changes out of my control and transitions experienced during long-distance caregiving and end of life care (2010-2017) helped me in many ways during the Stay at Home months. I had experienced a micro of this unexpected macro that started in March.

Ten years ago, an orange leaf on the front cover of a book caught my attention while browsing in a bookstore. I saw the title “Parting” and then “A Handbook for Spiritual Care Near the End of Life.”
My initial thought, “It’s too late for that book.” My dad had passed away in April 2010 and my grief was raw in June 2010. I had believed he would live into his nineties due to his love of life and learning. Everyone was blindsided when he was diagnosed in March and offered a hopeful prognosis.

Instead of dismissing the book, I picked it up and read the Foreword, which included: …Spiritual care for the purpose of this handbook is soul care, helping the human spirit in its search for peace. It is the attempt to help those near the end of life feel whole, fulfilled, and in harmony with their world and higher power. Religious experience may or may not be spiritual, and spiritual experience may or may not be religious. Regardless of the dying person’s religion or persuasion or faith tradition, spiritual care near the end of life supplies a deep human need.

I bought the book that day in 2010 and read it during Father’s Day weekend. An odd thing to do—dive into the dying, but my motivation was to dissect the misery and what had transpired in forty days. I needed to understand and “helping the human spirit in its search for peace” offered a light of peace in the unfamiliar darkness that descends with death. I accepted the light. It was as gentle as a single candle flame.

Found of page 3 in Parting:

One physician says that the best way to improve spiritual care for the dying is to improve it for the living. All too often, the day-to-day business of life gets in the way of the inner life. Death clears the calendar; it uncrowds life so that spiritual needs come to the forefront.

I asked myself, “Why wait? Why wait until end of life to pay attention to our spiritual needs? Why not now?” These questions have stuck with me since 2010. Time and time again, I cycled through change and transition due to a loss or a death. I would find peace and then lose it. Some “thing,” or connection, seemed to be missing.  The physician touched upon it in “Parting”, the day-to-day business of life gets in the way of the inner life. In March 2020 there was suddenly time to pay attention to the inner life. The two-week “hold” that transformed into a Stay at Home order was lifted on May 22. Plans for 2020 died. The death of the familiar day-to-day routines cleared the calendar.  Ways of doing changed. Ordinary events were no longer ordinary (or no longer existed). There have been many endings and each ending carried varying degrees of loss and grief. There was familiarity but disconnection, and a lot of unknown. The outside world looked the same, but there was an unseen hill of loss.

I had been here before.

And so Levine’s words return, replacing book with journey, and dying with what has died:

This is a journey of renewal. It is not simply about (what has died) but about the restoration of the heart, which occurs when we confront our life and death with mercy and awareness. It is an opportunity to resolve our denial of death as well as our denial of life in a year-long experiment in healing, joy, and revitalization.

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The Power of “Remember Them” – They Continue to Live and Become “Known”

In memory and in honor of the unknown soldiers of Alpha Company, many who became known due to the efforts of Phil Woodall. An excerpt from his first letter, so many years ago:

Dear Jean,
East 47 has an answer – the letter to Alpha Company is a poem. It is attached for you. I placed it at the base of panel 47 because on rows five and six are three Alpha Company members: Lt. Gary Scott, Lt. Frank Rodriquez, and PFC Manuel Ruiz – all killed March 29, 1968 in a paddy around Hue. The dates are documented in the book “Dear America,” excerpted from a letter that I wrote my Dad on April 5, 1968; the day after Martin Luther King was slain.

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